Understand Your Trauma
Re-Pair Your Relationships
Reclaim Your Life
Benjamin Fry, trauma and relationships expert, helps people untangle the invisible threads of trauma to build stronger relationships with themselves and with others. Explore his books, courses, and resources for your journey to healing.
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The Invisible Lion: How to Tame Your Nervous System
“This book brilliantly unravels the complexities of trauma, making it easier for readers to understand and address their own struggles.” – Dr Bessel van der Kolk
What if your panic, despair, or sudden reactions weren’t madness at all, but the echo of something unseen?
Imagine moving through life gripped by fear, anxiety or depression, often powerless against outbursts that feel irrational to you and baffling to everyone else. Then one day, the truth comes into focus, the invisible lion that has been chasing you is finally revealed.
In that moment, everything begins to make sense, not just to everyone else but to you too…
Watch the Free 5 Part Video Series
Understand how your nervous system responds to threat and how those responses might be running your life. In this free 5-part series based on The Invisible Lion, Benjamin Fry unpacks the hidden impact of trauma on your body, your relationships, and your sense of self.
“I had to break down before I could rebuild...”
My own breakdown nearly cost me everything, my work, my family, even my life. What saved me wasn’t talk therapy or medication, but discovering how trauma lives in the nervous system, shaping the way we feel, react, and relate. That insight changed everything..
Books
Explore Benjamin Fry’s best-selling books to understand your trauma, how and why it shapes your relationships, and why you keep getting stuck.
Couples Therapy
Re-Pair your relationship in just 3 sessions. Trauma-informed couples therapy that gets to the root of conflict with a practical, science-backed approach.
Speaking & Media
Book Benjamin Fry for your next podcast, panel, or stage. Explore his speaker topics, watch past talks, or download the media kit for press and booking information.
Khiron Clinics
Explore the world-renowned trauma clinic that Benjamin founded, with staff that have been informed, trained and supervised by some of the world’s top trauma experts.
Benjamin’s Story
“The way I loved was shaped by trauma. I just didn’t realise it until it almost cost me everything…” Read Benjamin Fry’s story from breakdown to breakthrough.
Upcoming Events
From workshops to international conferences, explore opportunities to see Benjamin Fry live and learn about trauma, relationships, and the nervous system live.
Testimonials
Benjamin Fry’s compassionate perspective and simple visualization of my manic behaviour struck a deep chord within me. For the first time, I felt truly heard and understood.
That moment changed everything—it saved my life.
For those of us who are dysregulated, which is probably most of the population, no one tells us better how to get our minds and bodies back to sanity.
Marina
Dr Bessel van der Kolk
The Invisible Lion demystifies trauma. With profound insight, this volume offers readers an accessible pathway towards self-understanding and healing, indispensable for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of their personal journey to heal and cultivate self-acceptance.
Dr Stephen W. Porges
From the Blog
Why You Keep Shutting Down: Dissociation and the Avoidant Nervous System
In emotionally intimate relationships, it is not uncommon for one partner to withdraw when faced with conflict, closeness, or strong emotion. This pattern, often referred
Small‑T Trauma Doesn’t Always Mean Small‑T Trigger: Supporting a Partner to Process Baggage
We often associate the word “trauma” with major, life-threatening events: war, abuse, or natural disasters. But many people carry the weight of less obvious injuries:
Opposites Attract, But Communication, Boundaries, and Understanding Keep Relationships Strong
The phrase “opposites attract” suggests an almost uncontrollable or unconscious magnetism between people who differ in personality, interests, or energy. While this can lead to
