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A collection of Benjamin Fry’s writings, illustrations, audio and video. These are areas covered in his book, The Invisible Lion, but are totally free and accessible to you here. Resources to guide you through life.

27. Adult Attachment: Love Addiction

Blog #27 Even when a child’s early relationships weren’t straightforward or particularly healthy, they still grow up to have another go at forming intimate relationships. However, we tend to end up being the person we ...

26. Attachment Types: Disorganised Attachment

Blog #26 Two types of insecure attachment are resistant and avoidant. In these styles of attachment, it is relatively simple to estimate the attachment styles of the adults that the children become. Children who grow ...

25 Attachment Types: Resistant and Avoidant

Blog #25 Research on attachment theory from the 1950’s showed that other than secure attachment, participating babies’ attachment styles could be separated into a few types – resistant and avoidant being two of them. The ...

24 Attachment

Blog #24 Attachment (see Attachment Styles) is a term that defines a reciprocal relationship between nervous systems in which one system is the baby or child, and the other is the parent (usually mother) or ...

23 Relationship Cycles

Blog #23 When we do not finish responding (see unfinished business) to earlier threats, the baggage gets stored in our nervous system. This results in either an over reaction or under reaction to triggers. Sometimes, ...

22 Blissful, happy relationships

Blog #22 In general, individuals who have not finished responding (see unfinished business) to an earlier threat in life are left with baggage in their nervous system.This either speeds them up or slows them down, ...